Saturday, January 2, 2016

Peeing on Her Own Feet

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Oddly enough, we have owned two white and beige, female Shih Tzu’s in the past ten years, virtual duplicates of the other, and an expensive breed of dog, both having wandered up to someone’s door; the first, Buddy, to ours, and the second, Queenie, to the door of a friend, and who, subsequently, gave that precious little animal to my wife and I.

However, this is where the similarities end.

Buddy, God rest her soul, was the most compliant little pooch in terms of her demeanor and, well, bathroom habits. From “Day One” we would allow her to walk out into the yard, “do her thing,” and notify us when she wanted to come back in. She also enjoyed sundering out and settling into a sunny spot near a couple of old oak trees. There was never any concern that she would toddle off down the road, and get lost. 
 (Once she got locked out of the house, and scratched and whined at the door ‘til we let her in). 

Why, Buddy didn’t even enjoy taking extended walks. She would pull at the leash, and turn her head back towards our house. Strangely enough, however, if I picked her up in my arms, and walked away, once we did a 180, she was always ready to get down, and walk back home.

Queenie, on the other hand, (who, by the way, is still breathing in and out) is a bit more unpredictable in nature. From “Day One” she could not be trusted to do the right thing. A leash has been, and after two years continues to be absolutely necessary. 

Queenie once managed to get out the door without our having witnessed her temporary escape, and before we noticed she was missing, there was a knock on our door. When we opened the door, “Bridgette,” a 15 year old neighbor, was standing there; a 15 pound ball of fur in her arms.

“Isn’t this your dog, Dr. McDonald?”

To which I responded,

“Yes, indeed. Apparently, you discovered her near your house.” (A home which lies approximately 150 yards from my own).

Whereas, Buddy detested leashes, and the resulting walks, Queenie, (as the previous illustration implies) enjoys the extended out of doors, and will follow me as far as I care to aim her tiny little nose. And as fastidious as Buddy proved herself to be, Queenie has proven to be anything but.

She is just as likely to do the solid waste thing in the middle of the asphalt, and she has a curious habit of “draining her lily pad” on the edge of the road; where the pavement meets the grass. As a result, her last bowl of water, now a putrid yellow, liquid mess, oozes out, about and under her little paws; a habit which requires  a couple more baths than was the case with our little Buddy.

And thus the title of this blog

… Peeing on Her Own Feet

And thus the moral of the story.

In a figurative sense, at least, some people seem to be guilty of that sort of discrepancy on a consistent basis.

As a counselor I’ve seen and heard things which would make your hair turn green. (If I had any … hair). Amazing and wonderful things. (In the most negative sense of the word).

There's an old adage. I you want something you’ve never had, you may have to do something you’ve never done. With the following folks, “the doing” was only a good theory.

Those who attempted to take their own lives during the course of counseling

Others who got clean, but not free, and returned to drugs and/or alcohol like a dog to its vomit

The ones who promised they were through with unfaithfulness, but who sooner, rather than later, re-adopted that lifestyle

They who displayed codependent tendencies, and who experienced an “ah-ha moment;” if only for a moment.


Abject dysfunction.

So much like my little Queenie. But she’s a dog. 

… People were never meant to pee on their own feet.

By William McDonald, PhD. Excerpt from "(Mc)Donald's Daily Diary" Vol. 21. Copyright pending

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