When Tenses Change Part 3

(See Parts 1 & 2)

As I have previously inferred sometimes tenses change;

when relationships have both come and gone, as the result of such variables as Death, Divorce or simply the Decision of one of the two parties in a relationship to go on down the proverbial road.

But after a season of understandable confusion and grief, and even bitterness, it behooves us to find a way to navigate our way out of the present “stuckness” in which we find ourselves.

“Like going to sleep with our feet in a wet grey mixture only to awake and find out its concrete.”

And as I have previous inferred, I’ve “been there” one too many times.

Nobody promised it would be easy, and no one promised it would be quick, but there’s a measure of closure which can and must be found if we are to “move on.”

And I think the healing process requires action. There’s simply no substitute for action, and action requires that we give our time, efforts and attention to present relationships and priorities, and reduce the time we spend

… remembering.

That is not to say that we can altogether forget those with whom we had established loved and valued relationships. We won’t and we shouldn’t. But it’s imperative in the remembering that, as best we know how, we cherish the good, and forgive the bad.

While the majority of failed relationships may be impossible to retrieve, for our own mental and emotional health, we must purposely commit our thoughts and actions to the present, and forgive our former loved ones the fallacies and frailties of the past.

 

By William McDonald, PhD. Excerpt from "(Mc)Donald's Daily Diary" Vol. 12

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